I've had 3 rotten bosses in my career.
I quit two of them ... and stayed to show the other one that I would be wildly successful despite her. :) I share those stories in many situations ... but never in the middle of a first conversation with a potential client (interview situation). If it comes up, I tell the short, sweet abbreviated edition of why the job wasn't a great fit for me ... and how excited I was to jump to my next opportunity (which was a much better fit because of A, B and C ... which by the way tie in very nicely with what the person sitting in front of me. You see, interviewing is alot like dating. On a first date, you need to put your best foot forward. That means saving the story about old Aunt Nick for a day when you know each other better. Watch this video to hear more about why being negative about anything in a job interview is a slippery slope.
hey everybody it is Katherine Byers breach chief striped changer with our bez I've been helping people get more money freedom and fun out of work since consultant or if you're a job seeker going for your next full-time job yeah got it interview you need to talk to your prospective new boss and get past that dreaded interview sometimes it's a phone screen sometimes it's in person but that's what I want to talk to you about today in it specifically I want to talk about how much baggage can you bring to that interview in other words can you share everything that happened in your last employer the short answer is no allow me to illustrate so I got a note from Bhuvana recently and she said hey Katherine I hope you're doing well my last boss was an absolute jerk can I say that in a job interview no that's the short answer you cannot say that your last boss was a royal bozo in the middle of a job interview however somewhere in the middle is probably answers let me first talk to you about why you can't throw your last boss under the bus even if he was the biggest jerk in the world number one reason interviewing is like a first date and it's a first impression situation and the person that's interviewing you whether it's a recruiter or a hiring manager is trying to figure out if you're gonna be a good fit for their team and whether or not they want to work with you and it's a very imperfect measure of the real you but it's the best they've got that in-person interview with you and even a phone interview is the best opportunity that they have to see who you really are and how you will perform on the job because of that you have to be careful what you say that's all they know about you is what they're hearing from you and seeing from you and so if you go in there and bash your last dirt boss and says he was an absolute jerk a piece of his amiss a oh that's horrible Wow he must have been a real jerk but unfortunately the manager and future coworker in them is gonna raise a red flag and say uh-oh danger zone was the guy really a jerk or is she a rotten employee who's just blaming everything on her boss see what happens is when you throw your former boss under the bus the flags go up and what could have been a 10 second conversation why'd you leave your last job why are you looking to leave your employer or why'd you quit that job three years ago however they asked the question they're trying to figure out did you leave because the management style was the same that they are going to impose upon you if the boss wasn't a good boss is there anybody inside their company that's gonna be acting like that were you a bad actor is there any reason why you blew up and then you ran away they're trying to make sure there are no surprises they're trying to avoid a bad hire and unfortunately even if you have the worst boss in the world bringing that out in all its glory during your interview is gonna make you look bad and turn you into a risky hire in their eyes so there is a better way so don't do it don't throw your boss under the bus or former coworkers don't badmouth anybody nobody wants that negativity in an interview that other reason you have to be very careful about how you talk about bad situations is the past is number one they're gonna get suspicious about was the boss really bad or was it you the other reason is that nobody wants to work with a negative Nellie nobody and recently I introduced a job seeker to a friend of mine and i teed it all up beautifully and I said Chris I think she's gonna be a terrific fit for you I really think you should interview I she's got everything that you're looking for i teed it up to be a win for both parties and I fully expected my phone to ring twice that afternoon I thought that both of them would call me and say oh my gosh thank you so much this is great we're gonna hire her and I'm so excited that is not what happened I heard nothing from the friend that I introduced to Chris but my phone rang that afternoon from she said seriously and I said what do you mean seriously and she said you really thought she'd be a great person for my teen are you nuts I was mortified absolutely shell-shocked mortified couldn't even believe what I was hearing and I said what happened and Chris said well the first three minutes were just fine and then she proceeded to spend the next 15 minutes telling me about her rotten former boss how hard the traffic was coming in to meet with me and then everything if she wants out of her next role picky picky negative negative I don't want anybody like that on my team I just fired somebody who was such a toxic member of our team she brought negativity into the workplace every day I'm not doing it again so thanks but no thanks oh my gosh I was shocked mortified all of the above so I called my friend over here and said what happened and she said you know things were going great and I was so comfortable and you're right she's wonderful but then halfway through the interview things started getting really weird I don't know where things went wrong but I don't think she likes me and I said well you're right this is what she said to me and my friend over here said oh my gosh I was so comfortable I thought I could share everything with her I was just being honest when you're interviewing there's a difference between honest and sharing too much information TMI and again it's a lot like a first date so my tip for you today if you had a rotten boss or a rotten co-worker or a really icky situation you're coming out of first of all I'm sorry that you went through that I've been there and it's horrible second of all you got to figure out how to talk about that before you go into your next interview or it just might be the thing that loses you the job even though you don't deserve that alright I hope that helps have a great rest of the day thanks so much for tuning in it's Katherine Byers breathe signing off